Been Ghosted? Here Are 4 Things To Do, Immediately

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You’ve been staring at your phone again, haven’t you?

You’ve been scrolling through the last few days of blue and green text bubbles like a detective at a crime scene, looking for the exact moment the “vibe” changed.

Maybe you’re thinking, “Everything was going so well. We talked for 4 hours on Tuesday. How can someone just disappear?”

Today, I’m giving you 4 very important tips for when bullish*t like this happens, so make sure you read ‘til the end.

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Tip #1: Ghosting is a loud and clear broadcast about this person’s emotional maturity.

If someone doesn’t have the basic communication skills to say, “Hey, I’ve had a great time, but I don’t think we’re a match,” they sure-as-shit don’t have the emotional capacity to build a real relationship.

This is a person who handles discomfort by hiding.

Is that really the person you want by your side when life actually gets hard?

Tip #2: The “Checking In” Trap

We’ve all been there. We’ve all sent that “low-stakes” text: “Hey! Hope you’re having a good week :)”

But everyone knows you’re not actually wondering if their week is going well. You’re trying to see if you still have “access” to them. You’re poking the bear to see if it’s still alive.

The problem with that is…

When you reach out to someone who’s been ignoring you, you’re teaching them that you don’t have boundaries and your standards are super low.

You’re basically telling them that they can treat you like ass and you’ll still show up with a smile.

I know that’s harsh, but I’m gonna help you get your power back with number three, so keep reading.

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Tip #3: Closing the Loop.

If the silence is driving you insane, and you absolutely feel the need to say something for your peace of mind…

Do. Not. Ask. A. Question.

Questions give them the power to choose whether or not to answer.

Instead, make a Statement.

Something like, “Hey, I haven’t heard from you in a bit, so I’m gonna assume we’re on different pages.”

By sending this, you have officially “un-ghosted” yourself by being the one to end the connection.

After that, delete their contact info. There’s zero reason to keep it.

Tip #4: Only Invest in people who invest in you.

A person’s “potential” is irrelevant if they aren’t present. I don’t care how much chemistry you had on the first date; if they aren’t messaging you back, they aren’t a high-value partner for you.

Again, I know that’s blunt, but I need you to realize that you are a prize to be won, not a puzzle to be solved only on days when they feel like it.

If they’ve stopped messaging, they’ve simply opted out of the privilege of knowing you.

Let them stay gone.

There is someone else out there who is looking for exactly what you have to offer, and they won’t make you check your phone ten times an hour to see if they’ve noticed you exist.

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